Email response

Here were are at the start of a new year.

Now that the holidays have come and gone and life is settling back into a somewhat normal routine, my mind is set on making this surrogacy happen. I am as anxious as ever to get started. I am giddy at the thought that this could be the year I get to make someone's dream come true!

I was debating on whether or not to call the agency since it had been awhile since I have heard anything. With some encouragement from the great women on the surrogacy support boards I decided I will call on Monday. While emailing another hopeful surrogate last night I decided that I couldn't wait until Monday. I needed to hear something NOW. Remember what I said, I am not a patient person! Lol. So I email the agency late last night. I was so excited to see a response from the director first thing this morning! Here is what she wrote:

Diana,

You are on the database. We have the most surrogates we have had in a very long time, so it may take a little while. We were very slow during November and December and did not add a lot of new clients. We have, however, this last week, started really picking back up. So, I don’t think it will take that long. A good deal of the surrogates on the database currently will not give the couple the option to terminate, so I think that helps to match you sooner a lot. I have two clients coming in next week and I think you are a good match for one who is from Arizona. They are ready to go now. Check with me after Wednesday to see how it goes. I also have two clients waiting to be matched. One only wants a Georgia surrogate, the other one won’t be back until the end of this month and will pick someone then.

Thanks much for checking,
K

To clarify about the "termination" issue K mentioned, I gave the couple the option to terminate if there were something wrong with the baby. While this is something I could never do myself I felt like this was their baby and their decision. It is a decision I know would be very difficult for all parties involved but I would support whatever they decide and do my best to help them through their difficult time. I did not, however, agree to selective reduction.

To increase the chances of pregnancy the doctor will implant 2 or more fertilized eggs. It is rare that they all take, but possible. They can implant 6 and all 6 of them will take! There are many factors involved. I won't bore with all the details. I just want those that may not be familiar with the process to have a general idea of how it works so you can know where I am coming from. Selective reduction means that the couple has the ability to terminate one or more of the embryos to achieve the number of babies (or simply, baby) they desire. I cannot see terminating a perfectly healthy pregnancy. At least give them a fighting chance is my take on it. As just so you know, they will not be implanting 6 embryos! Lol.

It may sound like I am contradicting myself. You may be saying, well then why terminate for health reasons? Why not give the baby that's there a fighting chance? Believe me, I would! But the way I see it, this couple has obviously been through a lot of heartache already if they are having to turn to surrogacy. I can't imagine that this would be an easy decision for them. Everyone has their breaking point though. If they are told their baby had little chance of survival outside the womb and they felt like they couldn't handle it emotionally to have this child die in their arms then why put them through that? God forbid anything like this actually happen, but if it did I feel like the couple should have the option to decide what is best for them and their family.

I hope that makes sense and I apologize if this upsets anyone. I had some difficult decisions to make when i decided to go through with the surrogacy. This certainly was not an easy decision to have to make.

If I hear anything later this week I will be sure to update. Keep the prayers going and the fingers crossed!